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Sunday, September 22, 2013
Thursday, September 19, 2013
Helping Kids Say Goodbye
What a difficult day today. I have decided that its time to put our 16 1/2 year old cat down. Whew..what a hard sentence to actually type. Thinking that it will need to happen someday and knowing it has to be done soon are such different concepts that its difficult to comprehend.
Unfortunately, making the decision isn't the most difficult part of the process. Its preparing my little Ladybug. Mr. Dino-man will take it hard, he will cry, he will be sad and he will move on...this is a situation where Aspergers helps. My Ladybug however is a completely different story...it will turn her world upside down for a good while to come. We had our dog put down about 4 1/2 years ago and she will still get sad at the sound of his name, make room for him in her bed (even though he never slept with her) and talk to him when she is sad. Yup, she is gonna take Shyan passing very hard.
We have, of course, had conversations. We have discussed that Shyan is really old, how happy we are that he has lived a long and happy life and that we got to spend it with him. But when it comes right down to it, none of that will help ease her pain at losing a friend that she has had since birth.
Several months ago she started asking me about how I knew when Yukon would die. Of course this threw me off guard, and I explained that he ha been sick. She reminded me that Grandma and Grandpa took them for ice cream and when they came home Yukon was dead. I tried to play it off as it being a weird coincidence...but she was too smart for that and pointed out to me that they also took her cousins out for ice cream...and they came home to find out that their dog was dead too. Smart kid...there are days (like that one) when I wished she wasn't so good at putting two and two together.
So I explained to her what happened with Yukon and why. We talked about how when you are a pet owner, difficult decisions often need to be made. We talked about what happened to Yukon (that he got a shot and went to sleep and then they gave him another shot to stop his heart, but that he didn't feel anything) we talked about the fact that even though Yukon is buried at our old house, it isn't where his body is, its where his memory is that counts.
She made me promise that when it was time for Shyan to be put down that I would let her say goodbye...and I will.
Unfortunately, making the decision isn't the most difficult part of the process. Its preparing my little Ladybug. Mr. Dino-man will take it hard, he will cry, he will be sad and he will move on...this is a situation where Aspergers helps. My Ladybug however is a completely different story...it will turn her world upside down for a good while to come. We had our dog put down about 4 1/2 years ago and she will still get sad at the sound of his name, make room for him in her bed (even though he never slept with her) and talk to him when she is sad. Yup, she is gonna take Shyan passing very hard.
We have, of course, had conversations. We have discussed that Shyan is really old, how happy we are that he has lived a long and happy life and that we got to spend it with him. But when it comes right down to it, none of that will help ease her pain at losing a friend that she has had since birth.
Several months ago she started asking me about how I knew when Yukon would die. Of course this threw me off guard, and I explained that he ha been sick. She reminded me that Grandma and Grandpa took them for ice cream and when they came home Yukon was dead. I tried to play it off as it being a weird coincidence...but she was too smart for that and pointed out to me that they also took her cousins out for ice cream...and they came home to find out that their dog was dead too. Smart kid...there are days (like that one) when I wished she wasn't so good at putting two and two together.
So I explained to her what happened with Yukon and why. We talked about how when you are a pet owner, difficult decisions often need to be made. We talked about what happened to Yukon (that he got a shot and went to sleep and then they gave him another shot to stop his heart, but that he didn't feel anything) we talked about the fact that even though Yukon is buried at our old house, it isn't where his body is, its where his memory is that counts.
She made me promise that when it was time for Shyan to be put down that I would let her say goodbye...and I will.
My Old Man Cat
Wednesday, September 18, 2013
Ladybug...Why Must You Test Me So?
My little Ladybug is growing up so quickly. She is growing from an adorable, mostly agreeable child into a beautiful, but attitudinaly (is that a word?) challenged young lady.
The hardest part to keep track of for me though, is her ever constant mood swings. One minute she is giving me (what my mother calls) Bette Davis eyes...you know the 'if looks could kill' look. The next, she is crawling on my lap to watch a movie, sucking her thumb. Obviously, I prefer the latter of the two...but what I would really prefer is a nice balance of the two.
I keep hearing from people that the balance comes...however, I often find myself wondering if either of us will make it that long.
On a lighter note, we are off to take a walk, as she wants to spend time together. :)
The hardest part to keep track of for me though, is her ever constant mood swings. One minute she is giving me (what my mother calls) Bette Davis eyes...you know the 'if looks could kill' look. The next, she is crawling on my lap to watch a movie, sucking her thumb. Obviously, I prefer the latter of the two...but what I would really prefer is a nice balance of the two.
I keep hearing from people that the balance comes...however, I often find myself wondering if either of us will make it that long.
On a lighter note, we are off to take a walk, as she wants to spend time together. :)
Opportunity Knocks
So, its been a LONG time since I've visited this space....and that's too bad. I like the idea of having someplace to vent, to dream, to be me.
Some interesting developments have happened lately, namely, I no longer have a day job. I have been getting a lot of "I'm sorry"s from people. I'm glad they feel enough for me to worry, but I couldn't be happier with my current situation. Not having to work for someone else, opens so many doors that I have keeping closed.
My husband and I have started (well actually we started a while ago) going to auctions in our area. At first it was to get some stuff for our money pit of a house, but it has morphed into what will become my source of income. Sure, its slow going, but with perseverance, I am sure that this whole not 'working' thing will work out pretty darn well for me.
Some interesting developments have happened lately, namely, I no longer have a day job. I have been getting a lot of "I'm sorry"s from people. I'm glad they feel enough for me to worry, but I couldn't be happier with my current situation. Not having to work for someone else, opens so many doors that I have keeping closed.
My husband and I have started (well actually we started a while ago) going to auctions in our area. At first it was to get some stuff for our money pit of a house, but it has morphed into what will become my source of income. Sure, its slow going, but with perseverance, I am sure that this whole not 'working' thing will work out pretty darn well for me.
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