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Sunday, September 22, 2013
Thursday, September 19, 2013
Helping Kids Say Goodbye
What a difficult day today. I have decided that its time to put our 16 1/2 year old cat down. Whew..what a hard sentence to actually type. Thinking that it will need to happen someday and knowing it has to be done soon are such different concepts that its difficult to comprehend.
Unfortunately, making the decision isn't the most difficult part of the process. Its preparing my little Ladybug. Mr. Dino-man will take it hard, he will cry, he will be sad and he will move on...this is a situation where Aspergers helps. My Ladybug however is a completely different story...it will turn her world upside down for a good while to come. We had our dog put down about 4 1/2 years ago and she will still get sad at the sound of his name, make room for him in her bed (even though he never slept with her) and talk to him when she is sad. Yup, she is gonna take Shyan passing very hard.
We have, of course, had conversations. We have discussed that Shyan is really old, how happy we are that he has lived a long and happy life and that we got to spend it with him. But when it comes right down to it, none of that will help ease her pain at losing a friend that she has had since birth.
Several months ago she started asking me about how I knew when Yukon would die. Of course this threw me off guard, and I explained that he ha been sick. She reminded me that Grandma and Grandpa took them for ice cream and when they came home Yukon was dead. I tried to play it off as it being a weird coincidence...but she was too smart for that and pointed out to me that they also took her cousins out for ice cream...and they came home to find out that their dog was dead too. Smart kid...there are days (like that one) when I wished she wasn't so good at putting two and two together.
So I explained to her what happened with Yukon and why. We talked about how when you are a pet owner, difficult decisions often need to be made. We talked about what happened to Yukon (that he got a shot and went to sleep and then they gave him another shot to stop his heart, but that he didn't feel anything) we talked about the fact that even though Yukon is buried at our old house, it isn't where his body is, its where his memory is that counts.
She made me promise that when it was time for Shyan to be put down that I would let her say goodbye...and I will.
Unfortunately, making the decision isn't the most difficult part of the process. Its preparing my little Ladybug. Mr. Dino-man will take it hard, he will cry, he will be sad and he will move on...this is a situation where Aspergers helps. My Ladybug however is a completely different story...it will turn her world upside down for a good while to come. We had our dog put down about 4 1/2 years ago and she will still get sad at the sound of his name, make room for him in her bed (even though he never slept with her) and talk to him when she is sad. Yup, she is gonna take Shyan passing very hard.
We have, of course, had conversations. We have discussed that Shyan is really old, how happy we are that he has lived a long and happy life and that we got to spend it with him. But when it comes right down to it, none of that will help ease her pain at losing a friend that she has had since birth.
Several months ago she started asking me about how I knew when Yukon would die. Of course this threw me off guard, and I explained that he ha been sick. She reminded me that Grandma and Grandpa took them for ice cream and when they came home Yukon was dead. I tried to play it off as it being a weird coincidence...but she was too smart for that and pointed out to me that they also took her cousins out for ice cream...and they came home to find out that their dog was dead too. Smart kid...there are days (like that one) when I wished she wasn't so good at putting two and two together.
So I explained to her what happened with Yukon and why. We talked about how when you are a pet owner, difficult decisions often need to be made. We talked about what happened to Yukon (that he got a shot and went to sleep and then they gave him another shot to stop his heart, but that he didn't feel anything) we talked about the fact that even though Yukon is buried at our old house, it isn't where his body is, its where his memory is that counts.
She made me promise that when it was time for Shyan to be put down that I would let her say goodbye...and I will.
My Old Man Cat
Wednesday, September 18, 2013
Ladybug...Why Must You Test Me So?
My little Ladybug is growing up so quickly. She is growing from an adorable, mostly agreeable child into a beautiful, but attitudinaly (is that a word?) challenged young lady.
The hardest part to keep track of for me though, is her ever constant mood swings. One minute she is giving me (what my mother calls) Bette Davis eyes...you know the 'if looks could kill' look. The next, she is crawling on my lap to watch a movie, sucking her thumb. Obviously, I prefer the latter of the two...but what I would really prefer is a nice balance of the two.
I keep hearing from people that the balance comes...however, I often find myself wondering if either of us will make it that long.
On a lighter note, we are off to take a walk, as she wants to spend time together. :)
The hardest part to keep track of for me though, is her ever constant mood swings. One minute she is giving me (what my mother calls) Bette Davis eyes...you know the 'if looks could kill' look. The next, she is crawling on my lap to watch a movie, sucking her thumb. Obviously, I prefer the latter of the two...but what I would really prefer is a nice balance of the two.
I keep hearing from people that the balance comes...however, I often find myself wondering if either of us will make it that long.
On a lighter note, we are off to take a walk, as she wants to spend time together. :)
Opportunity Knocks
So, its been a LONG time since I've visited this space....and that's too bad. I like the idea of having someplace to vent, to dream, to be me.
Some interesting developments have happened lately, namely, I no longer have a day job. I have been getting a lot of "I'm sorry"s from people. I'm glad they feel enough for me to worry, but I couldn't be happier with my current situation. Not having to work for someone else, opens so many doors that I have keeping closed.
My husband and I have started (well actually we started a while ago) going to auctions in our area. At first it was to get some stuff for our money pit of a house, but it has morphed into what will become my source of income. Sure, its slow going, but with perseverance, I am sure that this whole not 'working' thing will work out pretty darn well for me.
Some interesting developments have happened lately, namely, I no longer have a day job. I have been getting a lot of "I'm sorry"s from people. I'm glad they feel enough for me to worry, but I couldn't be happier with my current situation. Not having to work for someone else, opens so many doors that I have keeping closed.
My husband and I have started (well actually we started a while ago) going to auctions in our area. At first it was to get some stuff for our money pit of a house, but it has morphed into what will become my source of income. Sure, its slow going, but with perseverance, I am sure that this whole not 'working' thing will work out pretty darn well for me.
Sunday, January 8, 2012
Project Me...An Update.
So, the process of fixing me is having its ups and downs...I guess that is to be expected, but I am still a touch disappointed by how easily frustrated and angry I become - especially when, after I think about it, I am getting upset over minor issues.
So, I have resolved this year to take a closer look at exactly what is getting me so frustrated and why I act the way I do.
On another note, I have been making HUGE improvements in my efforts to keep the house clean, make better meals for the family and being all around more "domestic." That makes me happy. I am finding that when
'they' say a cluttered house is an unhappy house, that 'they' are right.
I am using some...not all yet, but some...of the Fly Lady's tips, tricks and techniques to help me with the house and overall organization. She has got some GREAT stuff on her site, as well as her facebook page. If you haven't checked her out yet, I highly recommend it.
I am also LOVING (OK, becoming TOTALLY addicted to) Pinterest. I am continually amazed at the level of creativity that is looming within people...and it seems as though it all comes out here, one one neat little site.
If you are already pinning...Check me out...if you haven't been introduced to the awesomeness that is Pinterest...check me out...I am sure that you, too, will soon be hooked.
OK...speaking of crafty fun. Check out the skirt that I made for Ms. Ladybug...this was a practice one for a Christmas present of a velvet skirt (I still have to take pictures of that).
She was happy with it and I think that it turned out pretty good. I did lengthen the final skirt though...although, she has since asked that the skirts have a little bit of a flare at the bottom, so that it is "easier to move"...which shouldn't be too difficult, even with my limited sewing abilities.
Until next time...be good to yourself.
So, I have resolved this year to take a closer look at exactly what is getting me so frustrated and why I act the way I do.
On another note, I have been making HUGE improvements in my efforts to keep the house clean, make better meals for the family and being all around more "domestic." That makes me happy. I am finding that when
'they' say a cluttered house is an unhappy house, that 'they' are right.
I am using some...not all yet, but some...of the Fly Lady's tips, tricks and techniques to help me with the house and overall organization. She has got some GREAT stuff on her site, as well as her facebook page. If you haven't checked her out yet, I highly recommend it.
I am also LOVING (OK, becoming TOTALLY addicted to) Pinterest. I am continually amazed at the level of creativity that is looming within people...and it seems as though it all comes out here, one one neat little site.
If you are already pinning...Check me out...if you haven't been introduced to the awesomeness that is Pinterest...check me out...I am sure that you, too, will soon be hooked.
OK...speaking of crafty fun. Check out the skirt that I made for Ms. Ladybug...this was a practice one for a Christmas present of a velvet skirt (I still have to take pictures of that).
She was happy with it and I think that it turned out pretty good. I did lengthen the final skirt though...although, she has since asked that the skirts have a little bit of a flare at the bottom, so that it is "easier to move"...which shouldn't be too difficult, even with my limited sewing abilities.
Until next time...be good to yourself.
Sunday, October 30, 2011
The Process of Fixing Me....
I have been doing a lot of reflection on myself as of late...I have been looking at what I want my life, my home, my family, my marriage to look like and I have come to the conclusion that I am basically doing NOTHING to get things from point A (which I don't like), to point B which I am SURE I will LOVE.
In short, I have been working on myself. What a tough project that has come to be...nothing like digging down deep and deciding that you are coming up short on pretty much every single front that you need to tackle. Wow...that kind of sounds like I'm being a bit hard on myself..but I don't think I am.
I have been putting into practice the teachings of the Flylady...LOVE the flylady! She takes household duties and breaks them down by room zones and 15 minute time increments. I am not 100% flying...but I am happy to say that I am at a solid 40% and improving all of the time. My home is use able and sleep-over friendly...as my daughter had her first slumber party a couple of weeks ago. :)
I am doing a much better job keeping up with the laundry...all though,still not doing a great job getting it put away...still working on that. However, the dishes are done, almost always.
I have been putting more effort into cooking and have made some amazing (if I do say so myself) meals for my family to enjoy. I am also experimenting more with foods and combinations.
I am putting rules and measures into place to make raising the kids more enjoyable...for us all. While they balked at some of the changes at first, they are slowly sliding into place and becoming more enjoyable by the day...which is nice. It had almost gotten to the point where I dreaded the thought of picking them up from school...and who wants to be that kind of mom??? I don't.
I am very happy with the changes that I am making and those that are on my list...makes me proud to look around my living room and know that I wouldn't be embarrassed if someone came by unexpectedly.
In short, I have been working on myself. What a tough project that has come to be...nothing like digging down deep and deciding that you are coming up short on pretty much every single front that you need to tackle. Wow...that kind of sounds like I'm being a bit hard on myself..but I don't think I am.
I have been putting into practice the teachings of the Flylady...LOVE the flylady! She takes household duties and breaks them down by room zones and 15 minute time increments. I am not 100% flying...but I am happy to say that I am at a solid 40% and improving all of the time. My home is use able and sleep-over friendly...as my daughter had her first slumber party a couple of weeks ago. :)
I am doing a much better job keeping up with the laundry...all though,still not doing a great job getting it put away...still working on that. However, the dishes are done, almost always.
I have been putting more effort into cooking and have made some amazing (if I do say so myself) meals for my family to enjoy. I am also experimenting more with foods and combinations.
I am putting rules and measures into place to make raising the kids more enjoyable...for us all. While they balked at some of the changes at first, they are slowly sliding into place and becoming more enjoyable by the day...which is nice. It had almost gotten to the point where I dreaded the thought of picking them up from school...and who wants to be that kind of mom??? I don't.
I am very happy with the changes that I am making and those that are on my list...makes me proud to look around my living room and know that I wouldn't be embarrassed if someone came by unexpectedly.
Thursday, April 14, 2011
Wow...its Been a LONG Time!
I hadn't realized how long it has been since I had posted here....oops.
Oddly enough, the last post was about my husband finally getting to be on days for a while...this one is just the opposite...he has been booted back to nights. Not just nights, second shift, that of course means no school plays, no after-school activites, no being with the kids at all excpet for first thing in the morning as they are getting ready for school and on weekends.
SUCH A BUMMER for everyone!
Oddly enough, the last post was about my husband finally getting to be on days for a while...this one is just the opposite...he has been booted back to nights. Not just nights, second shift, that of course means no school plays, no after-school activites, no being with the kids at all excpet for first thing in the morning as they are getting ready for school and on weekends.
SUCH A BUMMER for everyone!
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